I was just talking with my sister on the phone, and we were comparing times we were scared shitless while traveling and escaped it. You know, the kind of scary thing you didn’t tell your family about at the time it happened, because they would be really worried about you? We discussed how men literally do not ever have these concerns. Most men never walk down the street with a constant inner monologue of “Will I be assaulted today? Is that old man going to tell me to smile more?” We had an epiphany: Resting Bitch Face is a Self-Defense Mechanism.
And we’ve both used it as one! My sister and I each had multiples accounts of times that a mad straight face and deaf ear might have saved our lives. I checked your previous content, and their are references of RBF sprinkled throughout many conversations about feminism and the general life of being a woman, but this perspective is unique. Of course there are opportunities to link related MR content Do You Have a Resting Bitch Face? and Feminism and RBF, but this perspective is not “what do you do about RBF” or “RBF is an issue with the way men perceive women” but about the fact that sometimes, when you are on the subway alone, you put on your biggest, baddest bitch face because you don’t want to talk, and you don’t want to hear it. Sometimes that angry frown while to stare blankly in the distance is the only way to get a little fucking security and peace and quiet while going about your day to day life. Bitch face is the ultimate Man Repeller.
I hate that this is a conversation that has to be had, but women: How do you defend yourselves? A few of my close friends, strong friends who exercise and have taken self-defense and martial arts courses, have shared their personal self-defense tools and tactics with me, and I thought that it was worth passing along. I would also like to hear what makes you feel safe and comfortable, for examples, do you feel safer with a gun around, or less safe? Would you actually be comfortable using a pocket knife as a weapon? I have carried mace in the past, but doubt that I ever would have had it accessible enough to use it in an emergency. That is the magic of these tools.
This kitty keychain can be bought at Walmart, and is simple to use. Running at night? Walking home from the train alone? You already have your keys in your hand, now loop your fingers through the eyes of this cat to strengthen and sharpen your punch.
Another friend swears by this simple tactical pen shaped device, which you hold tight in your hand. The metal inside your fist strengthens your punch, but the tip can be used to jab or *gulp* stab the aggressor. She made the point that, while we can’t imagine ourselves gouging out a persons eye, that if that adrenaline kicks in and we are in a life-threatening situation, it is nice to know that you have the option?
This seems totally crazy reading these words about getting captured or having to stab someone… but every woman has felt uneasy walking home alone, and knows that queasy feeling, a sense that you might not be safe. These small tools are enough to bring confidence that if needed, you can get away and seek security and safety.
The only way that any of these devices work is if you have them in your hand at the moment you need them. The same goes for pepper spray. So be sure that if you rely on any of these, you keep them on your keys or just in your hand whenever you may possibly need to use them.
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