Coming to Terms with Your Career

I have written about career before, sharing advice for job hunting and running a side hustle. I’ve also written about strategies for resilience– how to just suck it up and deal, whether you like it or not.

I have followed my own advice, especially applying strategies for resilience and enduring the good and the bad. Here’s what I need to do now: I need to appreciate my career for what it is.

The thing that really makes this difficult work bearable is the knowledge that a) this is temporary, and b) I am learning. Those are the pieces that made other challenges so invigorating! I have been reading the narratives of bloggers from before they got big, and how they got where they are. Both Leandra Medine and Joanna Goddard, basically blog goddesses, pay tribute to what they considered a ‘paying of the dues’… really,  just putting in the time and gaining personal experience. What is motivating about their testimony on gaining experience is that this experience didn’t go on a resume and earn them a promotion… this experience lent itself to each woman becoming a self-made entrepreneur.

But then again, everyone’s job, no matter what it is, is hard. Goddard said as much when we talk about the public perception of her work. Everyone’s life is messy and complicated. Whether we live our lives out for public consumption or not, don’t most of us put on a brave face? “All those Pinterest quotes are so damaging,” she says, listing off clichés like, “Love what you do and it will never feel like work,” or, “You should want to do your job whether they paid your or not.”

“It’s called work; that’s why they pay you for it. It’s not always fun. If your goal is to be eternally giddy about your dream job, I’m afraid you’ll never find it.” That doesn’t mean she isn’t thankful for all that Cup of Jo has brought her, but there is a difference between gratitude and happiness. Gratitude carries us through rough patches, anxiety-ridden days and full-out downhill slides.
Quote from Man Repeller interview with Joanna Goddard of Cup of Jo.

Beyond just sucking it up and getting through, something bigger has to happen. I know that to reach the next level of my career, and to be best prepared to switch careers in the future, I need to commit. I’m not very good at doing that! I don’t want to commit because this is so hard and so emotionally trying. I’m afraid. I’m tempted to leave all the time. But if I commit, and deeply invest my time and energy, I will be better at it and better for it. The community that I serve will be better served. I may see growth, but if I don’t I’ll also have one hell of an experience to put on my resume.

Strategies to Invest and Commit in Your Career

  1. Step up and be more active.
    Take on a new role and more responsibility in your work place. The more involved you are, the more skills and connections you gain and the easier the job itself becomes. Sometimes this means volunteering for a job that no one else wants to do, or putting in an extra couple of hours each week.
  2. Seek out professional development
    Maintain a growth mindset and seek out the resources to make you better at what you do. Bonus: these opportunities may give you a much needed break, which will ease the burnout. By taking the time to learn and grow in your field, and stepping away from the workplace for a few days to evaluate your own performance, you will return to your workplace with fresh eyes and new ideas.
  3. Try new things
    This is the easiest way to get out of a rut with anything in life. Do something different! Approach your day differently, adjust your schedule, apply new skills within your work. If you can totally switch something within your job, try it! Maybe move from the desk to the field or vice versa, or changing your focus from one specialization to another.
  4. Explore what will make you long term happy
    When you are off work, try a hobby or new career trajectory that you enjoy- something that brings you lasting joy and peace. Pursue your curiosity in other things! It may be an investment in your future career. You may surprise yourself: as we develop our personal interests and break out of our comfort zone (read: pattern of tv and pizza), often other things (like work) and positively impacted.
  5. Invest in the present while planning the future
    Be really awesome at your current job, and promote your success. This positive attention puts you in a position to continue moving forward. You’ll need those wins whether you are trying to grow in your current career or look for other work.
  6. Be a resource
    After a few years in one job, you are able to be a mentor for new professionals. Apply your expertise and feel purposeful in your work by making yourself or you work available as a resource to your peers. This could be done by circulating a resource you developed within your network or online, even selling materials or starting a website. This will deepen your personal practice as you shift your thinking to “What have I learned and how can I teach it?”
  7. Create opportunity
    Are you bored? Annoyed with the lack of community at work? Change things! Step up, because if you want something to happen differently, it takes an initiator. The break room is sad and uncomfortable so everyone eats alone at their desk? Volunteer to decorate it and start a committee to host fun events with the staff! Basically, see a need, fill a need. You will be happier to be there and will be recognized as a valuable self-starter.
  8. Make new friends and keep the old
    Seek and build a community for yourself. Reach out and start new things with coworkers. Does it feel impossible to spend anytime with coworkers? The internet makes it so easy to search for friends! There are book clubs on Meetup, and women’s events on Eventbrite. Ladies Get Paid is a cool resource to find other career-minded women in your area. I also highly recommend taking crazy classes all the time, like rock climbing, scuba, ceramics, woodworking, dance, improv, etc. You will meet the coolest people, and feel deeply connected.
  9. Reach out
    I always forget that other people have/are suffered/suffering through this and forge a path through it. By reaching out to people who have been there, done that, and finding a mentor or comrade in the field, you are reminded that you are not alone, and may find a greater sense of purpose and interest.
  10. Make it worth your while
    Spend your money on what you really want. What brings you peace and joy and happiness? What makes your daily life easier? Don’t waste your HARD EARNED MONEY on stuff that doesn’t serve you. I am trying to buy experiences over stuff, and stuff that has a specific need. Also, if you what you really want is a different career or a long retirement, then save that money. Make yourself a fuck off fund or carefully pad your retirement account and then leave when you’re ready.

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5 Rules for Your Side Hustle

One way I’ve realized for me to feel more independent and content with a high-stress job is to have a little side hustle running. I tried driving for Lyft, and I am ready to peel off my stickers and downgrade car insurance. It’s a hassle and frankly, I’m overqualified. I can earn 5 hours of Lyft money in one hour of private piano lessons. Here are my strategies for a little money to pad my rainy day/ sunny day accounts.

  1. Ask what you deserve. 
    There is no better time than when you are your own boss. This work is your overtime, and if you are going to put in extra hours you might as well earn what you deserve. If I am going to spend 2 hours teaching piano after 8 hours of butting heads with students, then that money best be worth my time, because it’s going to take a lot of energy and patiences.
  2. Don’t hate it. 
    You had a food service job in college and it drove you crazy. Don’t go pick up an evening shift at the place down the street! For the love of all that is good, find work that you can at least tolerate!
  3. Don’t let it interrupt your main gig (unless that’s secretly the plan)
    Look, for now teaching provides health insurance, a somewhat reliable income, and summers off. I am not going to jeopardize that consistency unless I have a solid footing for another career in place. That doesn’t mean I won’t explore other skillets and options, but it does mean I won’t pick up any crazy night shifts that will affect my ability to work the next day.
  4. Promote yourself
    Just like when applying to and interviewing for jobs, you are your own best advocate! Tout your skills and achievements loudly and proudly, because you deserve to make gains from your accomplishments.
  5. Schedule on time and off time
    Extra work and money can be a little addicting. When you start lining up your new opportunities, be sure to schedule solid time to yourself. Solid time doing what you love, like hanging out with friends or having dinner with your partner, but also some time to yourself. It’s healthy. You need it. Don’t go crazy with your side hustle.



Six Things

I am so busy right now! I am in meetings all week and very busy getting myself organized when I’m not. Here are six things to give you a little midweek distraction.


jojotastic-my-new-favorite-graphic-tees-on-Etsy-6Love this list of quality graphic t-shirts found on Etsy.


Ask-MR-What-If-I-Hate-My-Job-Man-repeller-750x1125.jpgI hate my job. What should I do? Leandra Medine knew exactly what I needed to hear.

“It’s okay not to love every aspect of your job. We’re fed this messaging that work in 2017 is supposed to feel like a Caribbean vacation replete with health daiquiris and photo-taking tutorials, but I wonder if that has completely disillusioned the process of actually, you know, working.”


Are you following the murder of Kim Wall? I found it deeply disturbing, and decided to learn a little bit more about here. Read some of her work here.

Have you visited the American Southwest? I lived there for several months and I have vivid dreams about being there still. This travelogue makes me want to visit again.


Thinking ahead to Halloween. I think this would be so fun to make for myself!!

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All of my meals have been very colorful this week! Here is a collection of my Harvest Colors.


Dress for Success: The Professional

This post is a part of our Professionals series.

Sometimes, you have to fake it till you make it. There is definitely merit in putting your best face forward when interviewing for new careers or asking for a promotion. Additionally, if you win that job or upgrade, you should probably treat yourself to something nice. Bonus points if you can wear or use it at your place of work! Here are some upgrades I have my eye on.

Tech Upgrade

Engraved Leather Laptop Case

Foliage Laptop Skin

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Rose Gold Macbook

Dress Up

I love Madewell’s central shirts and can’t wait for these central drapey shirts to go on sale!!! They look so comfortable, and like they would flow over your skin in a very flattering way, where many dress shirts will puff out awkwardly.

I like pairing luxe silk camisoles and tanks with a conservative cardigan or relaxed blazer.

Imagine this jumpsuit with this bold blazer… the ultimate power suit!

Classic Loafers and Chelsea Boot

Flats are a quick finish to any business outfit, and most importantly, they allow you to move around comfortably. Here are four selections: Classic CognacRose MetallicVelvet Mule, and Leather d’Orsay.



Debaser Pocket Perfume is my favorite luxurious perfume right now.


This NYX Drop Foundation can mix with lotion for a personal tinted moisturizer or be applied alone. Best part? It lasts all day!


My favorite peppery deodorant.


Really curious about this gold-plated safety razor. Definitely a great gift for the high-class professional in your life (if you can afford it!)

Related: 10 Ways to Get Ahead and Get the Job and 5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Applying for Jobs


7 Things

We’ve rounded up 7 great links from the week.

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This smoothie has two secret ingredients. I’m going to tell you those secrets: pear, and… salt? Trust me. I made it, true to the recipe minus the vanilla, with every intention of modifying the recipe after I had tasted it. NOPE! I am hooked. Eating it every day and staying full for 3+ hours even after a long workout. I ended up subbing the almond butter (mine was rancid) with almond flour, and it is delicious and still adds protein.

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10 Ways to Get Ahead and Get the Job

The reactions to our Professionals series has been incredible! I have been taking long, hard looks at my own career trajectory and am glad to share my lessons learned with all of you. Since this was posted, I’ve learned one more “last resort” method of following up: send the business a giant, hand-labeled manilla envelope with a copy of your resumé, cover letter, and sample work inside.


24 Women on How Life Changes with Age

I am not sad to lose my youth. Every year brings me more experience and wisdom. I am genuinely excited to get old (except when my younger sister calls me old). The reflections of these women, from their twenties to their seventies, are thoughtful and resounding.

“Conveniently for me, the older I get, the less I care about the age of my friends. I have come to realize that the connections humans make are truly timeless. Growing up, I was nervous of older or more sophisticated women. Then, as I became a mom, I was nervous of the moms who seemed to be old pros at this gig and had no time for a newbie. Not sure if time has softened or hardened me (you pick), but lately, I simply don’t care! I am so happy making my own decisions. This confidence has brought me MANY new amazing friends. I used to feel that I was ‘too young’ or ‘too old’ for that group… but really, if I can party like I am 30, and reflect like I am 60? I think I’m on the right track.”

-Susan, age 41


Eclipse Experiences in 5 Regions

Did you see the eclipse? Here are photos and stories from 5 friends who experienced the eclipse in ranges from 85% to totality.



NYX Total Control Foundation

As the weather gets dryer, do you find your skin following suit? I was having trouble finding a tinted moisturizer that wasn’t a goopy BB, CC, or DD (what??) cream that clogged my skin. I just tried this thin foundation that comes in a dropper bottle and mixed it with my lotion for the perfect blend of moisture and color. The thing that most impressed me was how long it lasted. I wore this all day, and even though it was mixed with a heavy lotion, the coverage didn’t budge. 2_00bd1b58-5f7e-4e1b-a3bc-f01c2471b634.jpg
In Chorus by Justina Blakeney

I love this musical image of bowed heads and peeking eyes. It seems to show unity and independence happening in unison within a group of unique and diverse women.


Ten Best Album Covers of Summer 2017

Our roundup of the 10 best album covers of the year so far. I guarantee that with this group of artists, some you’ll know and some you won’t. Each album has a link to a track for a first listen.



10 Ways to Get Ahead and Get the Job

This post is a part of the series, Professionals.

As a young professional, I have received varied advice from teachers and mentors for how to get ahead. Compiling them here is a good reminder for me to put my best face forward during career transitions, and I hope that the advice is helpful for all of you.

  1. Put your photo in your resumé
    Almost every application today is done online. In order to be memorable, even during a quick scroll through many applications, add a photo of yourself at the top of your resumé. My resumé has my name and contact information as a heading in the top left of the document, and a headshot taking up a similar amount of space in the top right. The entire heading takes up less than one quarter of the document, so as to leave room to fit the rest of the relevant information. The headshot that I use is a simple photograph of me, sitting in front of my instrument, with natural light and earth tones. It is subtle, but colorful, and a face is always more memorable than a list of black and white words. It sounds extreme to non-performers, but this advice was given to me by a banker, who said it is how she got her job.
  2. Every document should fit on one page
    One single-spaced front side only piece of paper. This does two things. First, it forces you to be selective. The only skills listed on your resumé will be relevant and recent. The second is that it makes all of your documents neat and easy to approach. The trick to this is not to minimize your font size and scrunch the words close: you must be selective and commit to that size 12 Times New Roman, or whatever your standard is. If you are handing a resumé or cover letter that is carefully constructed, your potential employer will have an easier time skimming your documents and finding your relevant skills.
  3. Well-organized skills and achievements
    (Your attributes… the “For Dummies” version!)

    Just as each document must be neat to fit into a single page, it must be well-organized, and not redundant. My resumé has a clear heading and headshot in the top quarter of the paper. The next segment has all of my directly applicable work experience (and this is the bulk of my resumé). The bottom half is divided between education and unique experiences that don’t directly fit the category of education or work experience. For me, these are labeled as “Culturally Immersive Experiences” because they were all study-abroad or similar experiences.
  4. Follow up in person
    If you can! The best way to follow up is to stalk the company. I asked an accomplished radio host once how she got into the industry, expecting years of studying media, or a transition from journalism. Instead, she said she just kept showing up until they hired her! Make your face a familiar (and pleasant) one. Be sure to carry 3 copies of your resumé and cover letter. If there is no way at all to show up in person, call. Even if you don’t have access to an HR number, you can often find contact information for the department head online. Smile while you talk on the phone- people can hear your smile. Trust me.
  5. Make a thank-you note before you interview
    Okay, okay. I got this from Grace on Grace and Frankie. Before you go in to your interview, write a card thanking them for interviewing you. If you have the name of your interviewer, use that, or leave it blank and fill it out immediately afterwards. Address the envelope, put a stamp on it, fill the card with polite and tactful gratitude. As soon as the interview is over, put your interviewers name in the card, seal it up and drop it in the mailbox! The card will arrive in the next day or two, and your interviewer at least won’t be able to forget you.
  6. Do your research
    Your cover letter and introductory email should never say “to whom it may concern.” In the age of the internet, that is lazy, and it shows little time and effort on your part. Before the interview, know a few things about the company, like the demographics of the community or awards that the company has received. Beyond that, know what the average salary is (Glassdoor is perfect for this) and what benefits to expect when it is time to negotiate.
  7. Envision yourself in the position (and be prepared to negotiate)
    Read through the entire job description, qualifications, and desired skills. Research the company culture, learn the expected salary and benefits. Picture yourself doing this job. What would your day look like? Are you sitting in an office, or out on the floor? Envision yourself in this position and in the interview, find a way for your interviewer to envision you in this position. Statements about what you will do at the company, or what ideas you already have. If the job offer comes, maintain that confident vision of you in the position and negotiate. Glassdoor has a “know your worth” calculator that takes your experience and education into account. If you can’t negotiate the salary you would like, especially if you are leaving a higher paying job than this one, negotiate vacation days or benefits. Keep that image of you in this position and harness the confidence that comes with it.
  8. Prepare specific questions for the end of the interview
    It’s the end of the interview and your interviewer asks, “Do you have any questions for me?” Yes, you do! Before you go in, commit questions to memory specifically for this period of the interview. These questions are specific, gleaned from your earlier research of the company. Ask specific questions regarding the goal for your position, or about expectations for company culture. For example, is the company looking for independent workers or team players?
  9. Apply even if you don’t meet every single qualification
    One of the leading reasons for the gender wage gap is that men will often apply to jobs even if they don’t meet the full list of qualifications. Often, women will not apply to a position unless they meet every single qualification. Some things may be non-negotiable, like the required college degree or a specific and necessary skill. Other things can be flexible, such as years of experience or a helpful language skill. In the instance of language or other learnable skills, if asked about them in the interview, you can volunteer a plan for acquiring those skills. If Spanish proficiency will make your job easier, volunteer to enroll in a beginner Spanish course.
  10. Carry examples of your work Just as you need to carry your three copies of your resumé and cover letter, you should also be prepared to submit examples of your work. Sometimes, this is unnecessary. I have carried a bound portfolio to interviews that never came up and stayed in my purse. However, this can also seal the deal. If the interviewer asks what sort of resource you would provide for a specific scenario, and you’ve made one, imagine saying, “Actually, I have already made one. Of course, I would tailor this document to the company’s specific standards, but here is an example of how I would approach that.” You’re in!


Related: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Applying for Jobs

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Reflections and Intentions

-Visited the Chicago Field Museum
-Enjoyed a whole week at our apartment FINALLY
-Ate kale every day
-Started a novel?!?!?!
-taught myself poker and rummy

-Continue our Professionals series
-Make a pinhole viewer and observe the eclipse
-Get ready to go back to work

-Run! Bike! Walk! Hike!
-Build new Rituals
-Clean my apartment/ my life

Back to School
5 Podcasts to Listen to on Your Roadtrip
Space is my Jam
5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Applying for Jobs
Book Lists

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Applying for Jobs

This post is a part of the series, Professionals.

I have thought for some time that “back-to-school” season only feels like prime time for job applications because I am a teacher. After reading this great advice today, I realize that the fading of summer into fall feels like hiring time because… it is. College grads just finished their wild and free summer and as their friends head back to school, they are looking for work. Seasonal positions leading up to the holidays start hiring, and parents scaling back and changing work schedules to be home when their kids are home create new openings at their place of work. I don’t know for certain that August is a more active hiring season than January, but this time of year is similar in that it is definitely a time for self reflection and personal change.

Here are a few points to think about if you are looking for something different.

  1. What brings you joy?
    Before combing through your qualifications and needs, decide where you want to go. Long term. What would you enjoy? What do you honestly want to do for 8 hours a day 5 days a week? You are spending 40 of your 168 hours a week working, and ideally 56 of those are spent sleeping! Or do you want something with more time flexibility? Also, think about what environment brings you joy. Do you want a collaborative team, or do you work best alone?
  2. What are your needs?
    Do you need a 9-5 structured day, or more flexible time? How important are included benefits or matching retirement plans to you? For me, I have no kids and a Roth IRA, so I feel more flexibility regarding benefits than someone with a family or different retirement set-up might. What salary is livable for you? How many vacation days do you need? Can you settle for less if you really love your job? I also am accustomed to lengthy vacation time and little freedom within the work schedule. I think I would be comfortable with less vacation and a lower salary in order to have more flexibility throughout the year. Sometimes a few part time jobs can fill needs and keep you happy better than a full time job.
  3. What are your qualifications?
    Working qualifications can include a college degree and formal training, but are not limited to that. Specific, evening short term experiences can be surprisingly applicable and relevant. An example: I spent one day volunteering with the National Park Service, in an unofficial capacity. That sounds irrelevant, but that day was spent teaching students about the migratory patterns of geese using an interactive game outside in the national park. Students were in nature all day, no electronics, lots of bugs, and had to use physical clues to act out a migration scenario, playing as if they were the traveling geese. This experience of teaching outside, giving students tools to learn through play, and using materials that cost nothing (one stack of index cards, essentially) gave me a wealth of knowledge and experience that teaching in a regular classroom for a whole year wouldn’t provide. These experiences are best shared in a letter of interest, and should be directly tied to skills needed for the job you are applying for.
  4. What have you already done?
    In many instances, especially in the arts, there is a way to prove yourself. Even if there is not an audition or required sample of your work, take the extra step and create one. They are hiring someone to write about their product line? Look at the writing already done, and do it better. Submit this sample along with your resume and cover letter. Or think way outside the box, like this applicant.
  5. Would you hire yourself?
    Would you hire yourself for this position? Think on this. Convince yourself, write the reasons, envision yourself there. Can’t picture it? Don’t apply. Find somewhere where you feel you will be a great fit, where there is room for growth, and where you and your place of work can have an exchange of reward.

Related: 10 Ways to Get Ahead and Get the Job



Money Minds and Summer Saving


Summer Saving from 3 Money Minds: Teachers in Chicago

Everyone approaches money differently. I like to spend my money, but I am also meticulous about tracking my spending and planning my savings. I log into my Mint account several times a day!

Maybe that’s not healthy.

I recently had a conversation with my coworkers, about financial planning for something that will happen much sooner than retirement… the summer.

We are teachers! Teachers in Chicago Public Schools, no less, and we do not get paid over the summer. Here are three strategies:

Profile 1: the gym teacher   73-512

“Last year, I didn’t save anything. I literally lived off my credit card. I lived like a millionaire, and I’m still paying it off! This year, I’m trying to have something saved.”

Profile 2: the art teacher   paint-palette-board-with-brush-outline_318-44779

“Uhm, I also lived like a millionaire, but I had saved for it. I saved like $7,000 and I thought I would have enough left over to put into my retirement account or something. Nope. Two trips to Europe cleaned out my savings. Get a job. Seriously, get a job, I’m already driving for Lyft.”

Profile 3: the music teacher  musical-notes-symbols_318-29778

“This is my first year, and I made this very careful plan to have $10,000 saved, in case we move or an emergency happens. I was behind my goal, and was planning to throw in my $3,000 tax return in its entirety along with every other pay check. Last week my cat had a medical emergency that cost over $2,000, so… I guess I’ll get a job. And start driving with Lyft.”

If CPS didn’t run through the end of June I would totally apply at a National Park somewhere, or a museum downtown! The other problem is that CPS may end school early… meaning that we would lose several paychecks that we are currently anticipating. Sadly, that means many teachers are working double duty and looking for jobs to get us through the summer.